I was listening to The High Low podcast the other week (an excellent listen which I would thoroughly recommend), and they got to the reader email part of the show, where listeners send in their problems/issues and hosts Pandora and Dolly answer them. One of the questions was about not wanting to take selfies and the reply really got me thinking, as Dolly touched on something that I've been thinking about recently. She gave a very eloquent answer (listen to it here about 40 minutes in - it's the podcast titled 'The Meme that broke the internet and why we need to talk about periods') but to sum up the bit that i'm referring to, she asked whether we really have to LOVE our selves/our bodies, or whether the notion is problematic as it reduces women to defining themselves by their bodies and not their actions.
This struck a chord with me as I couldn't agree more. I think this message often just creates the opposite effect. The more and more women are told they have to LOVE their bodies, be happy at any size etc. etc. it just drums home the fact that our bodies are the focus of everything; they are what we should define ourselves by, forget our personality or achievements or interests - if we don't LOVE our bodies and put all our efforts into LOVING our bodies then we are failures.
That last bit turned into a bit of an Instagram quote which is not me at all, but I hope I've made my point. I'd love to hear your thoughts on the subject - do you agree?