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Why I love summer but also it scares me

Dress ASOS
Sliders Primark
Bag Primark

Ah summer, the friend I can't wait to see, the friend I've been pining for during the long, LONG dark winter, when even the blossom had snow on. Then suddenly, it's here. It's here in the long nights trying to fall into a sweaty sleep and bright mornings spent getting up at 5:30am to water the garden whilst yawning and listening to Woman's Hour. It's going to Sainsbury's on my lunch break and finally finally finding that picota cherries are back (my personal crack). It's walking in the garden with no shoes on, swinging in my egg chair and getting lost in a book.

But with all this comes a tinge of sadness, a bit of anxiety. Pressure to ENJOY EVERY MOMENT, pictures on Instagram of whimsical walks through wildflowers, holidays to the Amalfi Coast. I'm eating crumpets and watching Love Island. I'm not going to every festival Bristol has to offer, I'm too hot to take a day trip to the beach. Sometimes I do want to have a BBQ or go on a spontaneous night out. But a lot of the time I just want to sit on the sofa in my bra and cycling shorts, talking to my cat. The summer slips on by, and I feel like I'm wasting it. Fomo of nothing and everything.

I feel like this is amplified this year with this amazing weather. When the weather in summer is still a bit shit, it's sad but also it's a tiny bit comforting. I can tell myself I would totally do all these things if it was sunny, but it's not so boo hoo I can't.

But favourite things aren't going to pub gardens or to festivals, not any more. My favourite things are leaving work and it still being light, buying a punnet of peaches for 99p, not having to wear bastard tights. Small things, but important things.

I just enjoy it being summer. Just the fact that it is summer, I like.


How to make the most of your lunchbreak

1. Always go out for a walk. Even if it's for 5 minutes, just physically getting up and leaving your desk makes you feel refreshed and ready for the next half of the day. If you have somewhere to walk that's in nature, like a park or a garden, even better.

2. Think about any life admin you need to do for the week - stuff like getting birthday cards and presents, going to the bank or just topping up boring stuff like cleaning products are all good things to get on your lunch break, saving you valuable weekend time. If you don't have any shops near your work, do a bit of internet life admin - pay bills, book travel tickets, sort out your inbox. I always find getting tasks done in lunch breaks easier than doing them at home because you have a time restraint  and you're usually already sat at the computer anyway.

3. If you're lucky enough to have one in walking distance of your place of work, join the library. I am reading so much more since I joined the library, plus it's free! You can reserve books or even request them if they aren't in stock. It's also just a nice quiet, relaxing place to be especially when it's cold or miserable outside.

4. If you're a blogger, join in a lunchtime blogger chat on a Monday between 1pm - 2pm (#LTBloggers) time. Pick up some blogging tips, make a new pal or just connect with like minded bloggers.

5. Again, if you work somewhere with lots of shops or a high street, have a good old browse in some charity shops. I've got some of my fave clothing and homeware bits from charity shops on my lunch break, including this spotty dress here and a whimsical cat tile that takes pride of place on one of my shelves.

Any more ideas, hit me up!

This dress is from Primark, you may remember it from being everywhere on the internet last year. It's still a gem but those frills are hella tight on the old arms! Bag and sunglasses are also Primark (would very much like the Ray Bans upon which they are based). The shirt is from Zara and the shoes are ASOS. They are actually a bit small but I love them so I force my trotters in. Yep I'm a treat.


May Favourites

This month I have been...

Mainly pretty boring stuff like a compost bin and self-sufficient cat toys so that Bluebell will stop trying to get our attention in the evening by knocking stuff off my carefully curated shelves! I am in the market for a tinted moisturiser or BB/CC cream too but I just can't decide which one to get. Any advice please let me know.

Rich and I are midway through the 3rd season of Fargo, which is good but not great in my opinion, nowhere near as compelling as season 1 or even 2. We are also re-watching Flight of the Conchords (always a delight) and I am living for Ru Paul's Drag Race, which I watch on the bus. How did I take so long to get involved?!? Okurrrrrr.

I have finished Purple Hibiscus by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie this month, which was part of  my book challenge; the category 'A book by a favourite author'. I loved the book, the characters were well developed and flawed but still likeable (mostly), and there was an interesting twist at the end.  I'm now finishing a Jacqueline Wilson book which I'm not sorry about and then I'll get back on the adult fiction bandwagon. Next category in my reading challenge is 'A book recommended by a librarian or independent book seller' which tbh I'm a bit scared about, I might cheat and pick one from a display of recommended books rather than have to ask someone and risk them thinking I'm a weirdo, because you know, other people amirite. We'll see. 

For these amazing Sandro flats (yeah right!) and a good pair of black dungarees since I had to retire my old ones (they were faded and ripped beyond repair). Why can't I find any that are cotton? Why are they all denim? I'm also wishing wishing wishing that it is hot for our holiday to France at the beginning of June. 

Links of the month
Reasons why people were kicked out of things some of these made me chuckle
Everything you need to know about flying from a pilot I'm not a particularly nervous flyer but this Q&A with a pilot made me feel a lot better!
Whether you believe in Horoscopes or think they're a load of old bollocks, this account is funny
This old lady's book rating system is too cute! I wish I'd thought of it myself
Yomi Adegoke on the Royal Wedding and black women is an insightful read


Things I would tell my younger self

1. Learn to drive

I am writing this on the afternoon of my first failed driving test. I have been practising for about a year and a half now and it is the hardest thing I've done. It makes me incredibly nervous, and I wish to all that is true and good in the world that I had just bloody done it when I was 17. This is the number one tip I would give to myself and all young people! Just get off your arse and do it. BOOK IT NOW. It will only get harder with every day that passes.

2. Don't be afraid to join clubs at university

I dabbled in a few clubs at uni - I tried the student radio in my first year (well I joined at the fresher's fair but probably showed up once to a meeting), and attempted to join the dance club in my second year (except I failed the auditions, which weirdly weren't just a chance to dance like an idiot to Yeah by Usher). Looking back, I wish I had just joined the student newspaper, which was what I was actually interested in. Maybe I would have followed a different path...but no ragrets ya know?

3. Understand that friendships dip in and out and that's okay

The comment section on Man Repeller is a gold mine of advice, tips and product recommendations (shout out to Make Me Brow by Essence, a dupe of Glossier Boy Brow). A commenter said this underneath an article on friendship and it made me feel warm:

'As I've moved around for school and work, and come in and out of different periods over the course of my life, there's been groups of women who I've been lucky enough to move into the "best friend" tier for a particular time in my life. While distance may separate us after a few years, I've always felt they were still my best friends, because they made it into that tier in the first place. I'm lucky enough to have little bunches of them!'

I think this is so sweet and true - just because you might not speak to someone you were once super close with, doesn't mean they haven't filled (and continue to fill) a little pocket of your heart!

4. Look after your cat properly

Your parents trusted you to look after that cat and you never used to clear out her litter tray. Shame on you. Disclaimer: I do look after the cat I currently have.

What would you tell your younger self?